Once upon a time in a session someone said to me “I feel like I have a missing piece and when I find it I’ll feel whole.” The book The Missing Piece by Shel Silverstein jumped in my head. I remembered the book was about the circle Pac Man thingy rolling along and finding his missing piece. Only, it turns out I remembered it wrong. It is so much better than I remembered.
It is about this circle which is missing a piece. (Think a pie slice.) It searches far and wide for a piece that will fit it perfectly. On the way it plays with butterflies and meets lots of different pieces it checks out. The circle has all types of adventures and then one day it finally meets the piece that fits it perfectly. He has so much joy because he found his missing piece. Only, it doesn’t quite work out the way he expected. The piece fits so well he becomes a full circle and starts rolling and rolling and isn’t able to play with butterflies or meet other pieces or enjoy any of what he passes on the journey. The circle realizes having the missing piece isn’t better for him and separates from his missing piece. He is able to take pleasure in his journey again.
How often are we that circle? We think of happiness and contentment as the finish line. I did it. I am happy. Maybe we think of happiness as finding that one true soul mate. You may ask yourself “if this is the love of my life why aren’t I happy?”
It is because life isn’t about the finish line. Life is everyday struggles and joys. Life is sharing this with those we love – not about those we love filling in a place in our soul to make us complete. You may not feel it but you are a whole person. There is no missing piece. You can grow, change and live but life is about now. Stop looking for your missing piece. Enjoy the journey. Play with butterflies. Love, share joy and sorrow with those you meet along the way. You are already worthy and complete.