For some reason I am all about speaking up lately. I was playing on Pinterest (you know – instead of doing something productive) and I came across this quote:
“I learned that now that one who speaks about one’s miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.” CS Lewis
I have so much love for this quote. It is so easy to not speak about what hurts us. Sometimes it is to avoid. If I don’t talk about something that bothers me then I don’t have to feel as bad. Sometimes we don’t talk because a situation seems hopeless and nothing changes. Sometimes it is because we think other people must be sick and tired of listening to us go on and on about it. Seems like acceptable reasoning.
Only, the aftermath of not sharing can be so much more devastating. Not speaking can lead to isolation. Not speaking up can lead to more feelings of hopelessness and desperation. Not sharing can even lead to feeling shame. Not sharing and speaking can lead to avoiding feelings which oddly enough often make feelings more pronounced.
I’m not suggesting you tell the cashier at Target all your problems but I bet there are some safe people in your life you can speak to. People generally want to help us. People generally are understanding. Talk to a close neighbor, friend or family or even a therapist. (Shout out for therapy from the therapist!) You might be surprised at how speaking up alleviates some of your hurt and helps you feel more centered and whole.