In my meanderings around the web I came across this story and fell in love with it. (Directly taken from Here Also, I only skimmed over the transcript so I have no real idea what point the author was trying to convey.)
“Back in the days when pots and pans could talk, which indeed they still do, there lived a man. And in order to have water, every day he had to walk down the hill and fill two pots and walk them home. One day, it was discovered one of the pots had a crack, and as time went on, the crack widened. Finally, the pot turned to the man and said, “You know, every day you take me to the river, and by the time you get home, half of the water’s leaked out. Please replace me with a better pot.” And the man said, “You don’t understand. As you spill, you water the wild flowers by the side of the path.” And sure enough, on the side of the path where the cracked pot was carried, beautiful flowers grew, while other side was barren. “I think I’ll keep you,” said the man.”
There are so many meanings that can be found in this vignette. I think about how easy it is to discard that which isn’t shiny and new anymore or even that which doesn’t live up to expectations. Conversely, how often do we not realize our own value?
When you feel like you are at the end of your rope, step back. Maybe your relationship isn’t easy and all consuming as when you began it but perhaps you’ve gained something more like security or spontaneity or wisdom. You can be sad about your relationship not working out the way you thought but that doesn’t mean it is all lost. Instead of living a disposable life, take time to see if there are aspects of a situation or item that you hadn’t considered previously. Maybe there is beauty, or benefit or flowers that you didn’t notice before.
As for your worth – you are much more complicated and awesome than you have taken to heart. It is easy to get caught up in past shame or current problems or perceived shortcomings. It is easy to fall into believing that life has let you down. Take time to remember that you uniquely bring something to all your relationships from casual acquaintances to intimate partners. Look for the flowers by the path that you bring.
When you read this story – what did you think about?