My client said “Never” and laughed and laughed and laughed when I asked her “Have you ever pretended you were a spy?” I have. I wasn’t trying to get my client to play ‘spy’ with me (although play is important too.) I was making a point about imagination. I encourage cultivating imagination in children because children who have an imagination are often more resilient. Being able to picture a different outcome or a different life can be hopeful. If a person is bullied or sad but can picture a scenario where that is not the case – this is hopeful. It bodes well if a child can picture situations where they are cared about and valued. Kids can even practice social skills and building relationships using imagination. (What? Julie you come up the craziest things you think.) Think about it as practice like role playing or imagining a situation in your head like adults do all the time.
Unfortunately, I think this is a skill people can lose as they become adults. People would think I’m stranger than I am if I spoke to an imaginary friend all the time. However, the ability to imagine what ifs and the ability to imagine being loved or being happy or achieving your dreams – can be so very beneficial.
My advice to you is to practice using your imagination. It will be so worth it.