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Julie Fanning LCSW



Moments of Clarity

It can happen anywhere and at any time.  Driving in my car listening to music, lying in bed waiting for sleep, eating at a restaurant with friends or when taking a walk.   There is a moment where I might have perfect clarity.  Where I know, without doubt what my next step would be.  It could be a major thing like the next step in a relationship or accepting a new job.  It might be a minor thing like calling an old friend.  Most of us have those moments where we absolutely are certain of a course of action.

Only, the moment often doesn’t last.  A few hours or days or sometimes even minutes later that absolutely certain fades.  The decision doesn’t seem so clear cut.  All the barriers and roadblocks- often of my own making – gets in the way.  I can often think of many reasons why something – that felt so perfect – is not what I should be doing after the moment passes.

I think that I am better when I just hold on to the moment of clarity.  I acknowledge it existed.  I acknowledge that in that moment I knew that this was the way to go.  I try to hold on to regardless of what all the extraneous noise is telling me.  I think maybe our moments of clarity our truest voice of our soul and should be listened to.*

Try it.  Next time you have a moment of clarity, cling on to it.  Hold tight.  Maybe even write it down.  Step away from all your doubts and obstacles you put in the way.  Act on that moment of clarity.





*An exception would be if your moment of clarity consists of harming yourself.  In that case I would strongly encourage you to wait and talk to someone else about these feelings immediately.

Perils with Following your Path

I often speak about speaking up about your own truth.  Be who you are. Follow your dreams. . I know I can get quite passionate on the subject.  I just am not sure that I always remember to mention that even if it is the path you are supposed to take, it isn’t necessarily easy.


It isn’t easy facing rejection from others of who we are.  Some people won’t agree with the statements you make or the actions you take.  Some people will be brutal in voicing their disagreement.  It isn’t easy being vulnerable and laid out open to others.  Following your own path may mean having to grieve over the safety of hiding, or of not having immediate supports or being unsettled.  There might not be the panacea of freedom; there may be sadness and hollowness.  I encourage everyone to speak up because I think all of our souls are amazing and worthy but don’t worry if it just isn’t your time yet. Don’t worry if you have to take a step back or break.  Everything will happen in its own time.  Everything you do, every path you take, leads you to where you need to be.  None of your time is wasted time

Yes, I still have a ton of Doctor Who quotes to share.

Previous posts (and explanations) with Doctor Who Quotes:

“A straight line may be the shortest distance between two points, but it is by no means the most interesting.” – The Third Doctor, The Time Warrior


Making lists, checking off tasks, moving ahead – all good ways to reach your goals.  Just don’t forget that being better than and having more than is generally not the purpose of life.  It is ok to take a bit of a side trip.  Think of all the things you miss by strictly adhering to a schedule.  You might miss talking to the older couple at the gas station telling how they just hit their 60th anniversary and their secrets on keeping a marriage together.  Maybe you will miss seeing that gorgeous waterfall that is a bit off the beaten path.  Maybe you’ll miss hysterically laughing with your family as you somehow get lost in a parking garage when you swear you were just driving down a street.  Maybe you’ll miss a deeper connection with family and friends because you skip that 15 minutes of coffee in the morning with your significant other or you go and run errands rather than have a picnic with the kids.  Like many of you I want to move forward, meet my goals and live fully.  I just know the times I remember are not the times I completed my tasks in an orderly manner (get up, get ready, feed everybody, go to work, run errands, get dinner on the stove, network a half other, do a load of laundry, play on the internet, get ready for bed, go to sleep.)  The times I remember are the other times.  The times I jumped a bit off the scheduled path.  The days I remember are the days I say “let’s totally do this instead.”  I remember the days I said “well I was planning on doing this but I can be flexible.”  I know we all have responsibilities and duties in our lives but is that really it?

I believe life is not meant to be a series of tasks but interesting.  I want to enjoy interesting things, interesting places and interesting people.  Next time you feel yourself stressed out about sticking to your schedule – maybe ask yourself if you’d rather open yourself up for all sorts of interesting things to happen and give yourself permission to take a step out of your to do list.

I am going to admit that I’ve never seen the third doctor but that would be the beauty of the internet.  You can find anything!  Here is a clip with the Third Doctor.

Find Your Passion Prezi

Happy Wednesday!

I am always looking for fun ways to get my message out.  (Whatever that might be.)  I saw some therapists were using this program called Prezi to create slideshow sort of thingies so I jumped on the bandwagon and did one to.  I took my “Find Your Passion” rack card and tried to make a Prezi.  Go ahead and check it out and let me know what you think.  I obviously have no idea how it is supposed to work yet but it was fun to do.

You can click on the start button for each slide to show up or  if you go prefer go under the tab ‘more’ and it will give you the option to run it like a video.  Good times.

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